Anonymous said: I don't really know if you'd be comfy with me asking this, but... I think I might have a pseudo-rape fetish. I wanted to ask you if that was fucked up or not? Because the topic of rape is absolutely disgusting to me, but then again whenever I masturbate I say "no" and "stop" a lot, as if I was getting raped.
Hey, if that’s your thing, then whatever floats your boat. I’m not looking to make anyone feel bad because of what they like. It’s just not for me.
Aw, c’mon Brandon-kun. Usually you’re so good at helping others, but I have to say this kind of thing tends to miff me to no end.
There can be a ton of guilt associated with having this fetish, and I would know since I’ve been dealing with it most my life. I like force. That’s not to say, however, that I condone rape. Rape is terrifying. Rape is life changing and mind-altering. I’ve been the near victim in two cases and I’ve never been more horrified in my entire life than in those instances, but I still continue to have force fantasies. Why? Well, after a lot of self searching and finding out about BDSM I can give some light to it, I think. Like someone said in reply to this post, rape-play can become consenting non-consent when you find a proper someone to share your desires with. And trust me, it can take a _lot_ of work to find that someone who you can trust. The thing is though, when you find that someone you can hand control off to them and it’s perfectly fine to scream “no,” and “stop,” all you like. But say your chosen safe word and everything comes grinding to a full halt. It becomes a situation that _you_, the submissive, actually have full power over.
It’s rather comforting doing so because you’re taking a downright harrowing experience like rape, and you’re altering it to your own whims. You choose who and where and how. You can ultimately end the situation in one word. It’s actually rather therapeutic to a lot of submissives, including me. There’s nothing wrong with desiring this kind of play.
What really makes me angry, however, is when the first response I get from certain people (even friends) is, “Eww, gross!” or, “Oh, so and so’s ex was into that and they’re so messed up!” Just, yeah. Thanks for making me feel even more horrible about the thing I like, which is already difficult to come to terms with by itself.
I don’t want anyone to get raped. I would never wish for anyone to get violated or abused both mentally and physically. In a BDSM relationship you can have dominance asserted over you, and have a deep and lasting love. It’s a relationship based on mutual respect and no one is forced to anything they are uncomfortable with. No one gets hurt. Well, not in that way. Some Dom/sub relationships don’t even involve much pain…kind of like mine! (I prefer being tortured with pleasure, personally.)
As for how rape is portrayed in hentai…that’s a whole ‘nother can of worms that I often have a bone to pick with. I just want the anon to know that they aren’t alone, because I’ve been there and at times I still count myself as a horrible person, but I can’t change who I am. I just hope I’ve helped in some small way. And as far as BDSM goes I recommend doing some research! Always stay safe, sane, and consensual.
And This Is Why You Shouldn’t Get Sick In America
Many believe that the US healthcare system is the best in the world. Not so according to the World Health Organization’s ranking of the world’s health systems. The US doesn’t even rank in the top 25. It ranks 37th and is the most expensive in the world. I would argue that even if we had the best healthcare system in the world, what good is it, if no one can afford to access it.
Most companies are buying 60/40-policys for their employees these days, but even if you are lucky enough to have good insurance with 80/20-policy coverage, that 20 percent your responsible for can drive you right into bankruptcy as easily as the 60-40 policy given the cost of healthcare.
Insurance cost have been going up dramatically in the last two decades, long before the new Affordable Healthcare Act has taken affect, in some cases as much as 35% per year.
But have you noticed the latest trick the insurance companies have roll out?
Yes, Higher Deductible… most averaging $5,000 per year, per person, but I have seen some as high as $10,000 per year. For those of you that are wondering, this tactic is specifically designed too stop you from using your insurance. It reduces the insurance companies out of pocket liability by shift costs onto consumers, especially those dealing with chronic illness such as diabetes and arthritis. Consequently, because consumers can’t afford the deductible they will avoid necessary care to save money.
Although insurance companies are a problem, the real crook is the healthcare system it self. A corrupt and bloated system desperately in need of reform!
OKAY SO I KNEW THAT TECHNICALLY IN AMERICA THAT YOU PAY FOR HEALTHCARE BUT LIKE THE IDEA IS SO BIZARRE TO ME THAT I’D NEVER CONSIDERED THAT YOU’D GET… A BILL?????? FOR BEING…. ILL?????????? I LITERALLY DON’T
how can anaesthetic cost that much??
how is this legal??
WHAT? And I thought having to pay £7 ($11.55) for stronger prescription allergy meds instead of £4 ($6.60) for the less effective store-brand ones was ridiculous.
You have to pay for the ambulance!?
OK, I’m shocked by the prices, but all of the people from other countries who are just shocked that there ARE prices just make me so so sad.
This is so screwed up.
I just recoiled from my screen. Being brought up with the NHS meant that I only recently considered that free medical attention might not be a citizen’s right in every country. I’m still recoiling.
This is pretty much why i don’t bother with my health. Funeral costs are cheaper in the US then going to a hospital in the event of an emergency.
They can’t profit off of me being dead.
This is one of many reasons I’d leave America if I could. I’ve been needing medical care for physical and mental problems my whole life, but haven’t been able to afford even basic help. I’m probably going to end up dying of something stupid and preventable. It’s worrying to me anyway, but especially for myself and my family as many of us have high levels of PCBs in our bodies (THANKS MONSANTO) and are at higher risk of cancer (and lupus, developmental disorders, all kinds of nasty shit, you can look it up online if you do a search for Monsanto in Anniston AL and the shit that went on there). If I ever end up sick? Too fucking bad, I guess. I’ve had multiple family members die of various cancers, so it’s a very real possibility and I probably get to look forward to dying painfully at home.
I held off going to the emergency room when I got hurt and just waited for the doctors because of shit like this. I can’t rely on my insurance for hospital care because the deductible is so high what’s the point. I pay so much a month just for insurance to avoid helping me.
I love my country but fuck…
The #1 reason I hesitate to move back to the States.
Shit like this is on my list of ‘why America isn’t anywhere near as ‘cool’ as foreign kids swimming in American pop culture think it is’.
Can we talk about this a moment, America? This is my ‘savings’ on a life saving medication I’ve taken almost half my life. This is *one* months worth of one single GENERIC prescription. Before it was generic (and before the ACA) it cost me more than 5 grand a month. No matter what your politics are, if you have any empathy in your heart for others, remember there are people that used to spend more than 60% of their income each month for medications…but they can at least afford those meds a bit now. #merica #aca #medications #healthcarereform #chronicillness #spoonie #imjustsayin
Thank you MissLee
As a bisexual, it sickens me that some people WILL keep scrolling.
As the straight daughter of a gay man, it sickens me that some people will keep scrolling.
As a straight girl with a basic understanding of equality and love, it also sickens me that people will keep scrolling.
As a straight Christian woman, I pray that people will not scroll past this. Love, not judge.
I’m re-reblogging for that last one.
If you can’t reblog this…
NEVER HAVE NEVER WILL
That’s a fucking low number. That’s fucking sad.
Never have. Never will.
I totally drew a thing just so I could test out new coloring methods… Yup. …Only reason…